Do people change?
I used to say NO. But as I moved around the US and created different friendships I noticed a new vibration in them. As I started to meditate, go to yoga, read about crystals, reiki and chakras, my old lower and heavy vibration changed and a new expansive one filled the void.
So, as I changed, so did my friendships. My old friends fell away and new, more spiritual friends started to emerge.
Lower vibrations are in us all - ALL THAT IS - is everything. But once you've experienced and learned from them, it's time to move forward in your spiral of vibrational learning.
There are pockets of vibrations around the US, and around the world. Some are lower, some are higher....but if you find yourself in the same situations, moaning about the same issues, having the same friendships, feeling pulled down - it's time to move yourself into a higher vibrational field.
This may mean finding a new place to live - a place that calls you. Or it may be letting old friendships go, and being alone for a time. It's also calling in new teachers, spiritual beings into your life as your vibration rises.
You are not a tree - at least not in this lifetime - so you can move yourself in and out of vibrations of space, people, time, and energy. Play with how you feel in different vibrations in all of these forms.
You are here to grow, learn, fail, play, and enjoy experiences in all vibrations.
People don't change, but you can -- go play!
Do people change?
I used to say NO. But as I moved around the US and created different friendships I noticed a new vibration in them. As I started to meditate, go to yoga, read about crystals, reiki and chakras, my old lower and heavy vibration changed and a new expansive one filled the void.
So, as I changed, so did my friendships. My old friends fell away and new, more spiritual friends started to emerge.
Lower vibrations are in us all - ALL THAT IS - is everything. But once you've experienced and learned from them, it's time to move forward in your spiral of vibrational learning.
There are pockets of vibrations around the US, and around the world. Some are lower, some are higher....but if you find yourself in the same situations, moaning about the same issues, having the same friendships, feeling pulled down - it's time to move yourself into a higher vibrational field.
This may mean finding a new place to live - a place that calls you. Or it may be letting old friendships go, and being alone for a time. It's also calling in new teachers, spiritual beings into your life as your vibration rises.
You are not a tree - at least not in this lifetime - so you can move yourself in and out of vibrations of space, people, time, and energy. Play with how you feel in different vibrations in all of these forms.
You are here to grow, learn, fail, play, and enjoy experiences in all vibrations.
People don't change, but you can -- go play!
Finding your unique tone, your unique vibration is important for healing the body physical and energetic body.
What do I mean by tone?
Your tone is your unique vibration. Some people find it by OMing. But I like to hum. Humming with my mouth closed I can drop into my heart chakra, where the vibration of me is pure. Then opening my mouth allows my unique sound to emerge.
It helps to place one hand on your belly and one on your heart. You'll feel a vibration starting to expand as you keep humming, oming, or sounding. Keep going. Go deeper. Go higher. Play with your tone until you find the right one that is full of ease.
This is the tone you can hold with the breath without change. This is you. This is your home, your core vibration.
If you have a partner, playing with your tones will ignite sacred sexual energy. Tone for each other. Place your hand on his/her heart and his/hers on yours. Tone. Feel the vibrations between you both. Then tone one at a time. This templates you to each other's vibration.
Knowing someone's unique tone allows you to find them when they are lost. It also alerts you when they are in a time of need or expansion.
Your tone is a safe place for you to come back home to. If you feel alone, confused, or sad - tone. Tone to yourself and allow that vibration to fill you up again. This is you. And when you tone, that vibration kindly kicks all other vibrations of not you out of your energy fields.
Have fun with Tone!
Finding your unique tone, your unique vibration is important for healing the body physical and energetic body.
What do I mean by tone?
Your tone is your unique vibration. Some people find it by OMing. But I like to hum. Humming with my mouth closed I can drop into my heart chakra, where the vibration of me is pure. Then opening my mouth allows my unique sound to emerge.
It helps to place one hand on your belly and one on your heart. You'll feel a vibration starting to expand as you keep humming, oming, or sounding. Keep going. Go deeper. Go higher. Play with your tone until you find the right one that is full of ease.
This is the tone you can hold with the breath without change. This is you. This is your home, your core vibration.
If you have a partner, playing with your tones will ignite sacred sexual energy. Tone for each other. Place your hand on his/her heart and his/hers on yours. Tone. Feel the vibrations between you both. Then tone one at a time. This templates you to each other's vibration.
Knowing someone's unique tone allows you to find them when they are lost. It also alerts you when they are in a time of need or expansion.
Your tone is a safe place for you to come back home to. If you feel alone, confused, or sad - tone. Tone to yourself and allow that vibration to fill you up again. This is you. And when you tone, that vibration kindly kicks all other vibrations of not you out of your energy fields.
Have fun with Tone!
In the pursuit of truth, there will be falses & hypocrites. How can you tell the real deal from the fake?
Hypocrites are not evil beings, they are in search of the truth. But they are hiding from themselves, and so everything they see and do or say is a reflection of that falsehood.
A hypocrite feels lukewarm at best. They have no sense of self, no core, so they bounce around from person to person or idea to idea referencing outside themselves for groundedness. But without coming from the inside of self, they cannot hold the untrue vibration of others for long. The may feel like a chameleon, changing who they are or what they want depending upon who's near them.
Hypocrites above all else do not want to be hurt. This is their biggest fear, so they try to anticipate everyone's wishes and do that. They feel if they make everyone around them happy and safe, then they will be safe and happy, too.
Righteousness is on stage in the hypocrite's mind. They believe they know what's right for all, and so they demand everyone follow the same rules. This destroys creativity and curiosity. But they believe they are helping others stay safe by keeping them to the rules.
To overcome the hypocrisy in you, check in with yourself.
Find your core, and do not reference another. You are safe in your vibration of you. Keep coming back to yourself and checking in with what's true and right for you.
You can also guide the hypocrite in your life back to themselves. Have them reference their body when they start to pull from your energy. Where are they feeling unsafe in their body? This is a great question to ask them. Have them name it and place their hands there to find their core.
You will help yourself and others become more solid, more balanced, and more creative.
In the pursuit of truth, there will be falses & hypocrites. How can you tell the real deal from the fake?
Hypocrites are not evil beings, they are in search of the truth. But they are hiding from themselves, and so everything they see and do or say is a reflection of that falsehood.
A hypocrite feels lukewarm at best. They have no sense of self, no core, so they bounce around from person to person or idea to idea referencing outside themselves for groundedness. But without coming from the inside of self, they cannot hold the untrue vibration of others for long. The may feel like a chameleon, changing who they are or what they want depending upon who's near them.
Hypocrites above all else do not want to be hurt. This is their biggest fear, so they try to anticipate everyone's wishes and do that. They feel if they make everyone around them happy and safe, then they will be safe and happy, too.
Righteousness is on stage in the hypocrite's mind. They believe they know what's right for all, and so they demand everyone follow the same rules. This destroys creativity and curiosity. But they believe they are helping others stay safe by keeping them to the rules.
To overcome the hypocrisy in you, check in with yourself.
Find your core, and do not reference another. You are safe in your vibration of you. Keep coming back to yourself and checking in with what's true and right for you.
You can also guide the hypocrite in your life back to themselves. Have them reference their body when they start to pull from your energy. Where are they feeling unsafe in their body? This is a great question to ask them. Have them name it and place their hands there to find their core.
You will help yourself and others become more solid, more balanced, and more creative.
Sometimes in life we find ourselves at a crossroads. There's a decision to be made, but thinking about it only puts us into a spin. We might even write out a list of pros and cons, but still the decision to be made for our highest good is not clear.
This is when Automatic Writing comes in handy.
What is Automatic Writing?
It's taking the thinking you out of the equation. Letting go of should dos or not dos and being completely open to all possibilities.
How?
It's best to use a pen or pencil and blank paper. But you can also do this on your computer if you're able to type with your eyes closed.
Set up a sacred space for yourself. Light a candle. I typically burn a white candle, but feel into what your energy is calling for and use that color.
Have a blank paper pad open to a new page and a pencil or pen. Place your feet on the floor, palms turned up and open on your lap. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths in and out of your nose. Sigh a few times and then when you feel ready, pick up your pencil. Place the tip to the top part of your paper and ask for guidance from your spirit guides.
Then just start writing. Don't think about what you want to write, or what should be written. Let go. Write. Write. Write. Fill the page, turn to the next and fill that one. Fill at least three pages before you take a break.
If you have more to come out, keep going. Write until you feel complete. When done, thank your guides before reading these automatic words.
When you read, they might not make much sense. Take a highlighter and mark repeating words or phrases. Note anything that is a surprise to you or a curiosity.
This new information comes from your subconscious and will help you with your decision making.
Have fun with this!
Go play!
Sometimes in life we find ourselves at a crossroads. There's a decision to be made, but thinking about it only puts us into a spin. We might even write out a list of pros and cons, but still the decision to be made for our highest good is not clear.
This is when Automatic Writing comes in handy.
What is Automatic Writing?
It's taking the thinking you out of the equation. Letting go of should dos or not dos and being completely open to all possibilities.
How?
It's best to use a pen or pencil and blank paper. But you can also do this on your computer if you're able to type with your eyes closed.
Set up a sacred space for yourself. Light a candle. I typically burn a white candle, but feel into what your energy is calling for and use that color.
Have a blank paper pad open to a new page and a pencil or pen. Place your feet on the floor, palms turned up and open on your lap. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths in and out of your nose. Sigh a few times and then when you feel ready, pick up your pencil. Place the tip to the top part of your paper and ask for guidance from your spirit guides.
Then just start writing. Don't think about what you want to write, or what should be written. Let go. Write. Write. Write. Fill the page, turn to the next and fill that one. Fill at least three pages before you take a break.
If you have more to come out, keep going. Write until you feel complete. When done, thank your guides before reading these automatic words.
When you read, they might not make much sense. Take a highlighter and mark repeating words or phrases. Note anything that is a surprise to you or a curiosity.
This new information comes from your subconscious and will help you with your decision making.
Have fun with this!
Go play!
Life is a poem.
Poems are meant to be read, taken in for the fullness that they are and allowed to be. But what do we humans do? We dissect poems until the magic is lost. We sterilize it, until we don't like what we see.
Art is made to be enjoyed and loved in its entirety.
If you continue to dissect art, removing all the color, sound, and feeling to get to the root of it all, to understand the artist's meaning - you end up with a blank canvas.
The truth is we are all white light inside, all ONE. All blank canvases. That's where our possibility lives. Then we add color, sound, taste, touch, feelings, emotions, and all that makes up who we uniquely are -- we are a POEM in motion. Digging into all of our stanzas only disintegrates the beauty. We miss the whole of the being.
You are a poem. Breaking all of you down into your original cell leaves you with a possibility of a poem. But you can start from here in the NOW. You don't have to go backwards to go forwards. You don't have to start over. You can let all of the past go, and create your new stanzas with clarity, love, and direction.
No more analyzing yourself to death. Live in the NOW - create your new poem how you want to be.
You are a powerful creator - have fun with your life!
Life is a poem.
Poems are meant to be read, taken in for the fullness that they are and allowed to be. But what do we humans do? We dissect poems until the magic is lost. We sterilize it, until we don't like what we see.
Art is made to be enjoyed and loved in its entirety.
If you continue to dissect art, removing all the color, sound, and feeling to get to the root of it all, to understand the artist's meaning - you end up with a blank canvas.
The truth is we are all white light inside, all ONE. All blank canvases. That's where our possibility lives. Then we add color, sound, taste, touch, feelings, emotions, and all that makes up who we uniquely are -- we are a POEM in motion. Digging into all of our stanzas only disintegrates the beauty. We miss the whole of the being.
You are a poem. Breaking all of you down into your original cell leaves you with a possibility of a poem. But you can start from here in the NOW. You don't have to go backwards to go forwards. You don't have to start over. You can let all of the past go, and create your new stanzas with clarity, love, and direction.
No more analyzing yourself to death. Live in the NOW - create your new poem how you want to be.
You are a powerful creator - have fun with your life!
You sick of that story yet?
We are storytellers. Typically it's the negative stories we repeat and repeat and repeat until we've solidified that horrific story into our bones.
STOP IT!
Stop retelling your sad, abusive, unhealthy stories. You want to heal this trauma --- LET IT GO!
If you find you can't stop telling the same old stories, you're stuck. You're not being the hero you could be because you're stuck in the victim role. You're stuck in your sad story.
Bad stuff happens to us all -- horrific stuff. Those that become heroes stop repeating those stories. They aren't defined by them. This is not to be mistaken for ignoring what happened to you, hiding it, or boxing up feelings. True healing is moving through emotions, feeling them in your body, and releasing.
There's a horrific story in my past. I kept telling it to people. Everyone close to me knew that story, acquaintances knew, even a waitress found out-- because I told her -- and all the while, the other person involved in that story is dead. I was the only one keeping that story alive. I was the only one feeling the pain of that old trauma. I worked with my coach to feel it, release it, and forgive, releasing both of us from that story. I don't repeat that story anymore. It's not of me. It does not define me!! I am NOT that story!!!
In fact, I can create any story about me that I want!! This is much more fun for me, than repeating some old horrible story.
You are not your stories.
If you've experienced trauma and you're repeating the story, seek help with healing. Then no more telling that story. You won't want to anyway - once you're healed of it, repeating it does nothing for you. You'll start to focus on a new, creative, and lovely story. Much more fun!
You can do this...we can help.
You sick of that story yet?
We are storytellers. Typically it's the negative stories we repeat and repeat and repeat until we've solidified that horrific story into our bones.
STOP IT!
Stop retelling your sad, abusive, unhealthy stories. You want to heal this trauma --- LET IT GO!
If you find you can't stop telling the same old stories, you're stuck. You're not being the hero you could be because you're stuck in the victim role. You're stuck in your sad story.
Bad stuff happens to us all -- horrific stuff. Those that become heroes stop repeating those stories. They aren't defined by them. This is not to be mistaken for ignoring what happened to you, hiding it, or boxing up feelings. True healing is moving through emotions, feeling them in your body, and releasing.
There's a horrific story in my past. I kept telling it to people. Everyone close to me knew that story, acquaintances knew, even a waitress found out-- because I told her -- and all the while, the other person involved in that story is dead. I was the only one keeping that story alive. I was the only one feeling the pain of that old trauma. I worked with my coach to feel it, release it, and forgive, releasing both of us from that story. I don't repeat that story anymore. It's not of me. It does not define me!! I am NOT that story!!!
In fact, I can create any story about me that I want!! This is much more fun for me, than repeating some old horrible story.
You are not your stories.
If you've experienced trauma and you're repeating the story, seek help with healing. Then no more telling that story. You won't want to anyway - once you're healed of it, repeating it does nothing for you. You'll start to focus on a new, creative, and lovely story. Much more fun!
You can do this...we can help.
Everything you are searching for: popularity, money, abundance, sexuality, love, faith, beauty, honesty, truth, clarity, spirituality, grace, knowledge, intuition, guides, gurus, knowing, understanding, forgiveness....
It's ALL within you.
You are what you've been searching for -- believe that, and your life will change. Go inward. Go in deep....find that cord of only you. It pulses straight up and down inside your core. I see it as a white, almost blindingly white thick cord.
How?
Meditate in an upright and seated position. Close your eyes. Place your hands, palms up, on your upper thighs. Pointer finger to thumb mudra. Breathe. Six rounds of in breath and six rounds of fully out breath. Then say your name. You can say it out loud or inside, but repeat your name. The name you were born with - first name is fine.
I say, "Angie, Angie, Angie, Angie, Angie...I Am Angie, Angie..."
As you're saying your name, think that all other energies that aren't you or of your vibration are leaving your energy fields. Keep repeating your name and concentrating on your core cord that goes all the way down your spine and out and into the Earth and all the way up and out of the top of your head and into the ethers.
Finding your core cord might take a while, especially if you are new to meditation. Other times you'll get it immediately. Keep up the practice....you will find yourself. And when you do, you'll know that you are the true healer, guru, love of your life.
Know yourself - then share your pure light.
This is only one of the meditations we guide our clients through, but there are many ways to get to know yourself, and you are worth knowing!
Everything you are searching for: popularity, money, abundance, sexuality, love, faith, beauty, honesty, truth, clarity, spirituality, grace, knowledge, intuition, guides, gurus, knowing, understanding, forgiveness....
It's ALL within you.
You are what you've been searching for -- believe that, and your life will change. Go inward. Go in deep....find that cord of only you. It pulses straight up and down inside your core. I see it as a white, almost blindingly white thick cord.
How?
Meditate in an upright and seated position. Close your eyes. Place your hands, palms up, on your upper thighs. Pointer finger to thumb mudra. Breathe. Six rounds of in breath and six rounds of fully out breath. Then say your name. You can say it out loud or inside, but repeat your name. The name you were born with - first name is fine.
I say, "Angie, Angie, Angie, Angie, Angie...I Am Angie, Angie..."
As you're saying your name, think that all other energies that aren't you or of your vibration are leaving your energy fields. Keep repeating your name and concentrating on your core cord that goes all the way down your spine and out and into the Earth and all the way up and out of the top of your head and into the ethers.
Finding your core cord might take a while, especially if you are new to meditation. Other times you'll get it immediately. Keep up the practice....you will find yourself. And when you do, you'll know that you are the true healer, guru, love of your life.
Know yourself - then share your pure light.
This is only one of the meditations we guide our clients through, but there are many ways to get to know yourself, and you are worth knowing!
I've been noticing a lot of spirituality out there saying good vibes only, positivity, look on the bright side, positive vibes only, blah, blah, blah...
Positivity is great - when it's authentic. But to ignore or push down your dark side, your destructive thoughts, your lower vibration is folly.
Covering up half of yourself and only showing the world your light side is a recipe for total breakdown and destruction. As you ignore your darkness, it grows in the shadows. It becomes angry, vengeful, spinning, and hateful of its isolation. You ignore that long enough it will destroy you. It will explode, traumatizing your life and your loved one's.
Spirit encompasses ALL feelings - the dark and the light. ALL are welcomed, witnessed, learned from, and integrated. When we ignore our darkness in favor for our light, we become half-beings. Half awake and not Holy.
Embrace your darkness as you embrace your light. Ask questions of your dark thoughts, and be open to those teachings. Integrate your past traumas, do not push them away or bury them deep inside. Be brave enough to witness the full you - all of you - the high and the low, the light and the dark. The full you wants to be loved, wants to be seen, wants to be accepted.
Spirituality is positive but spirituality is also negative. Both live side by side - to ignore one is to be a half in the other.
To be fully embodied, love both.
Then you are truly Holy.
I've been noticing a lot of spirituality out there saying good vibes only, positivity, look on the bright side, positive vibes only, blah, blah, blah...
Positivity is great - when it's authentic. But to ignore or push down your dark side, your destructive thoughts, your lower vibration is folly.
Covering up half of yourself and only showing the world your light side is a recipe for total breakdown and destruction. As you ignore your darkness, it grows in the shadows. It becomes angry, vengeful, spinning, and hateful of its isolation. You ignore that long enough it will destroy you. It will explode, traumatizing your life and your loved one's.
Spirit encompasses ALL feelings - the dark and the light. ALL are welcomed, witnessed, learned from, and integrated. When we ignore our darkness in favor for our light, we become half-beings. Half awake and not Holy.
Embrace your darkness as you embrace your light. Ask questions of your dark thoughts, and be open to those teachings. Integrate your past traumas, do not push them away or bury them deep inside. Be brave enough to witness the full you - all of you - the high and the low, the light and the dark. The full you wants to be loved, wants to be seen, wants to be accepted.
Spirituality is positive but spirituality is also negative. Both live side by side - to ignore one is to be a half in the other.
To be fully embodied, love both.
Then you are truly Holy.
Bryan and I have been to many healing ceremonies, and men's and women's circles, and the one thing we've noticed is they all have a common idea that healing must be hard. There's a sort of unwritten tone that to heal, you must go through hell.
This is not so. And yet, many adults believe in this way of healing. But healing can be fun. It can be playful. It doesn't have to be difficult. In fact, it should be blissful.
One of the best and easiest ways to access health and bliss is PLAY. Playing moves energy. Playing raises vibration so that lower vibrations can no longer hold on. Playing is key to your healing. And it's fun!
Feelings that healing is hard work is lower vibrational. Start by shaking that thought, that belief loose. Shake your body all over and let that idea go.
Then smile. Start to ask questions of your healers on how to heal through play, dance, art, water, movement, smiling, laughing...
There are many playful ways to heal and move energy. Bring this up in your next circles and see what happens. People want the freedom of play. Be the one that opens that door for all of you.
I promise, you'll move more energy in play than sitting in darkness and heavy healing vibes.
Go play!
Bryan and I have been to many healing ceremonies, and men's and women's circles, and the one thing we've noticed is they all have a common idea that healing must be hard. There's a sort of unwritten tone that to heal, you must go through hell.
This is not so. And yet, many adults believe in this way of healing. But healing can be fun. It can be playful. It doesn't have to be difficult. In fact, it should be blissful.
One of the best and easiest ways to access health and bliss is PLAY. Playing moves energy. Playing raises vibration so that lower vibrations can no longer hold on. Playing is key to your healing. And it's fun!
Feelings that healing is hard work is lower vibrational. Start by shaking that thought, that belief loose. Shake your body all over and let that idea go.
Then smile. Start to ask questions of your healers on how to heal through play, dance, art, water, movement, smiling, laughing...
There are many playful ways to heal and move energy. Bring this up in your next circles and see what happens. People want the freedom of play. Be the one that opens that door for all of you.
I promise, you'll move more energy in play than sitting in darkness and heavy healing vibes.
Go play!
Water is in and a part of everything on this planet. And water has intelligence. Dr. Emoto's studies on water have shown that when water is told it is loved and it is thanked, it forms beautiful crystals when frozen.
But when water is told it is hated and it is ugly, it collapses in on itself and forms odd shapes, and broken forms.You are water. So what are you telling yourself each day?
If you constantly harp on yourself, dislike parts of your body, pick at yourself and say negative words or think negative thoughts about yourself, the water inside of you dulls, collapses, creates irregular shapes and shatters.But if you consistently tell yourself you are lovely, you are learning, you are bright, you are love, you are faithful, you are inspiring, the water inside of you forms amazing crystals, grows, shines, and connects.Be loving to yourself first.
You will make mistakes.
You will sometimes fail, but you are learning.
You are love. You are capable of great things.
Believe in yourself and you will shine like the crystal you are. And those around you will start to shine, too.
Water is in and a part of everything on this planet. And water has intelligence. Dr. Emoto's studies on water have shown that when water is told it is loved and it is thanked, it forms beautiful crystals when frozen.
But when water is told it is hated and it is ugly, it collapses in on itself and forms odd shapes, and broken forms.You are water. So what are you telling yourself each day?
If you constantly harp on yourself, dislike parts of your body, pick at yourself and say negative words or think negative thoughts about yourself, the water inside of you dulls, collapses, creates irregular shapes and shatters.But if you consistently tell yourself you are lovely, you are learning, you are bright, you are love, you are faithful, you are inspiring, the water inside of you forms amazing crystals, grows, shines, and connects.Be loving to yourself first.
You will make mistakes.
You will sometimes fail, but you are learning.
You are love. You are capable of great things.
Believe in yourself and you will shine like the crystal you are. And those around you will start to shine, too.
Traumas happen.
This is a fact of human life.
Everyone goes through trials.
Everyone.Relationships are the most difficult thing to cultivate. Bringing two people together, raised with different ideals, passions, understandings, spirituality, religion, money management, parenting skills or lack of, is a huge undertaking.Building a strong foundation is key to weathering any storms. ANY. But many relationships are not built on stability. They are built on money needs, status, expectations, neediness, confusion, or other emotions not pure of love and faith.To co-create a relationship strong enough to go through betrayal, lies, mismanagement of funds, parenting trials, deaths, job loss, and other traumas, you must remove your masks. And, these things will come because we are all here to go beyond, to stretch our knowings, to try on ways of being, to learn from situations.Be real with each other from the start. Have deep talks about the future, who you now, who you want to be, fears you have, excitements, all feelings and how you were raised - the good and the bad. Get this stuff out in the open now. Admit your dark sides. Your deepest darknesses and curiosities. Form an understanding between you two that you are knowing of the illusion, that trials will come, and that no matter what, you'll stand for the other. Because tough times will come. The toughest!
Many relationships fold during them.
But to truly be WITH someone else, you must accept their failures, faults, and darkest sides. Because they will show and so will yours.Foundation is key.
Build your relationship on being seen fully. But this is the tricky part and the key. There are things lurking in your energy fields that neither of you is aware of...and here's where we break. But knowing this about yourself and your partner will allow for the dismantling to occur and the holding of the strong base to rebuild from.
Knowing that the person you count on will someday mess up, disappoint you, betray you, hurt you, hide from you -- but your foundation is there, allows you to find compassion and come from love.
When trials come, you will be together, even if you're apart for a time.
A foundation of love withstands the strongest storms. You will rebuild with a deeper understanding of relationship and standing with someone, even if they've hurt you.You can do this.
Traumas are a part of all of our lives. Be willing to be seen from the start so when the darkness comes, there's still a sliver of light.
Traumas happen.
This is a fact of human life.
Everyone goes through trials.
Everyone.Relationships are the most difficult thing to cultivate. Bringing two people together, raised with different ideals, passions, understandings, spirituality, religion, money management, parenting skills or lack of, is a huge undertaking.Building a strong foundation is key to weathering any storms. ANY. But many relationships are not built on stability. They are built on money needs, status, expectations, neediness, confusion, or other emotions not pure of love and faith.To co-create a relationship strong enough to go through betrayal, lies, mismanagement of funds, parenting trials, deaths, job loss, and other traumas, you must remove your masks. And, these things will come because we are all here to go beyond, to stretch our knowings, to try on ways of being, to learn from situations.Be real with each other from the start. Have deep talks about the future, who you now, who you want to be, fears you have, excitements, all feelings and how you were raised - the good and the bad. Get this stuff out in the open now. Admit your dark sides. Your deepest darknesses and curiosities. Form an understanding between you two that you are knowing of the illusion, that trials will come, and that no matter what, you'll stand for the other. Because tough times will come. The toughest!
Many relationships fold during them.
But to truly be WITH someone else, you must accept their failures, faults, and darkest sides. Because they will show and so will yours.Foundation is key.
Build your relationship on being seen fully. But this is the tricky part and the key. There are things lurking in your energy fields that neither of you is aware of...and here's where we break. But knowing this about yourself and your partner will allow for the dismantling to occur and the holding of the strong base to rebuild from.
Knowing that the person you count on will someday mess up, disappoint you, betray you, hurt you, hide from you -- but your foundation is there, allows you to find compassion and come from love.
When trials come, you will be together, even if you're apart for a time.
A foundation of love withstands the strongest storms. You will rebuild with a deeper understanding of relationship and standing with someone, even if they've hurt you.You can do this.
Traumas are a part of all of our lives. Be willing to be seen from the start so when the darkness comes, there's still a sliver of light.
Do people change? 
